Saint Valentine’s, red hearts, flowers, cards, special gifts, candle light dinner, balloons. Holding hands, kissing on the street, caress on the forehead. Surprises, excitement, longing, intimacy. Is romance alive today?
We live in quite cynical, pragmatic world nowadays. We’re used to doing things only to expect some payback as our time is so limited that we don’t have any time to waste on random, emotional stuff. Our practicality is transferring from the material world to the matters of the heart.
As a person devoted to personal development as a pathway to a happy and successful life, my inherent belief is that if an area in our lives is not working, we need to do something about it.
In February 2015 I registered on eBay and placed my first order. Guess what was it?
A book. As I trust books can change lives. The book was “Money – a Love Story” by Kate Northrup and as you can probably tell from the title, it is a self-help book about personal finances. I truly recommend this book to anyone who wants to dig deeper on their scarcity mentality and improve their financial situation over time.
Introverts find it very challenging to attend social gatherings of any kind. Whether it’s a reunion of some sort, friend’s birthday party, clubbing on Friday night or work-related event, we tend to shrink into ourselves at the thought of meeting a lot of new people.
We’re not fans of small talk and can’t blend in easily. We find such events taking too much of our energy and this results in being completely exhausted after them.
If it’s up to us, we wouldn’t go at all and actually many times we don’t. But there are some occasions on which we know it’s for our highest good to make the effort and confront our unwillingness – as it was with a training I’ve recently done in London.
We need beauty, music and art in our lives – more than we admit or give credit to it. Our senses long to be given pleasure and our soul to be nourished. Caught in the day-to-day routine, work and errands, we often forget and don’t make time to replenish ourselves and experience some of the divine expressions of human genius and creativity.
I’m talking about going to the theatre, ballet, opera, concert, museum, exhibition, book reading, garden show, festival and so on. These are just a few of the many ways we can connect to other people’s creative outlets and get recharged by it. I know it’s a matter of time, money and organisation but it’s definitely worth it. Let me share some of my recent interactions with art and how they affected me.
I have been given the ultimate pleasure of seeing one of the most famous and long performed plays at West End, London – “Les Miserables” by Victor Hugo.
I have all kind of anniversaries and special days because I think we need more occasions to celebrate. These days are also milestones of something we have achieved, and as we know, celebrating success boosts self-confidence and motivates us to pursue our goals and go for our dreams. If you just say: “Well, yeah, I did that” or “That wasn’t so hard after all, what’s the point of celebrating?”, I can assure you that you’re not giving yourself enough credit for your accomplishments and you’re depriving yourself of energetic fuel to create wonderful new stuff in the future.
In September 2019, I celebrated 5 years since I arrived in the UK. After an emotional departure and a short flight to Luton, there I was, starting over, with 99% uncertainty and faith, strong faith that following my intuition was worth it, even for such a tremendous change.
You’ve probably come across the notion that in each person, irrelevant of gender, there is a certain proportion of feminine and masculine energy. It may sound like a new-age thing, but actually this concept has been around for centuries. Just think about the Yin & Yang from Ancient Chinese philosophy and the symbols representing them. So what is feminine and masculine energy then?
Without pretending to be psychologically or spiritually extensive, my narrative about this differentiation of energetic fields is quite simple.
The male is action, progress, planning, organising, achieving, being out in the world.
If you regularly follow my blog, you know what emphasis I put on personal development, enjoying life’s gifts and having the lifestyle of your dreams. If you like learning and travelling like me, you’re going to enjoy this story and maybe think how you can “create” opportunities in your life, too.
I’m not going to talk about law of attraction, positivity, clichés and condescendingly repeat pumped-up phrases of modern gurus.
This new-age movement has gone so out of hand that literally everyone nowadays has the messiah complex to tell you how to live your life but I’m not going to do that. What I will share with you is a real-life experience how I created a marvellous event with focused action, alignment with the idea and faith.
Today we talk a lot about individuality and “being yourself”, but actually we’ve never been further from it, except for the times when for political reasons uniformity has been the strict norm. We’re all tired of clichés such as “Follow your heart”, “Be different”, “Be yourself”, they even don’t have the same meaning as before. Due to social media, we’re following the herd more than ever, while genuinely believing in our originality.
One aspect of this culture of followers is the standard of beauty.
I will tell you a very personal and genuine story. It’s about an episode of my journey towards a higher standard of living or what we call nowadays “lifestyle”.
A few years ago, I used to download images of beautiful dresses and outfits that I came across in websites or the internet.
Before the Facebook and Instagram pages, where you can find anything today, I would manually download pretty pictures of fashion sets and store them in a folder on my laptop. Sometimes I would open the folder and find inspiration about clothes or even get something tailored for me. This was something very girly and gave me pleasure.
One evening I was showing the folder to my Mum –
It’s common for people with heightened sensitivity to enter a relationship with a narcissist. It’s easily done, given that we’re very accommodating to other people’s differences and characteristics and have hard time setting boundaries.
Narcissistic people have huge ego
and are looking for people to maintain their self-absorbed image of greatness and superiority. Some of the features of narcissists are wild reaction to criticism, lack of empathy, demonstrating arrogant, haughty and overproud behavior, using others to achieve their personal goals, constantly seeking attention and support and more. For the outside world, they may seem like the outgoing extrovert, the heart of the company, someone funny and knowledgeable.
Highly sensitive people are attracted to this open, interesting persona.