Whether we’re talking about coffee cups and stir sticks, plastic bags and bottles, electronics, clothes or food – the Information Age has turned us into the ultimate consumers. We no longer think carefully if we really like or need an item, we just impulsively buy it and then quickly get rid of it, when we’ve had enough or realised it wasn’t the best purchase. This vicious circle has taken enormous scale and it hurts me to see what we’re doing to the environment, climate, vegetation and animals. But this article is not about the environmental crisis that we’re experiencing, though I feel it very close to my heart, and believe actions should be taken both on personal and higher levels.
I want to talk to you about the disposable nature of relationships nowadays.
Saint Valentine’s, red hearts, flowers, cards, special gifts, candle light dinner, balloons. Holding hands, kissing on the street, caress on the forehead. Surprises, excitement, longing, intimacy. Is romance alive today?
We live in quite cynical, pragmatic world nowadays. We’re used to doing things only to expect some payback as our time is so limited that we don’t have any time to waste on random, emotional stuff. Our practicality is transferring from the material world to the matters of the heart.
You’ve probably come across the notion that in each person, irrelevant of gender, there is a certain proportion of feminine and masculine energy. It may sound like a new-age thing, but actually this concept has been around for centuries. Just think about the Yin & Yang from Ancient Chinese philosophy and the symbols representing them. So what is feminine and masculine energy then?
Without pretending to be psychologically or spiritually extensive, my narrative about this differentiation of energetic fields is quite simple.
The male is action, progress, planning, organising, achieving, being out in the world.
It’s common for people with heightened sensitivity to enter a relationship with a narcissist. It’s easily done, given that we’re very accommodating to other people’s differences and characteristics and have hard time setting boundaries.
Narcissistic people have huge ego
and are looking for people to maintain their self-absorbed image of greatness and superiority. Some of the features of narcissists are wild reaction to criticism, lack of empathy, demonstrating arrogant, haughty and overproud behavior, using others to achieve their personal goals, constantly seeking attention and support and more. For the outside world, they may seem like the outgoing extrovert, the heart of the company, someone funny and knowledgeable.
Highly sensitive people are attracted to this open, interesting persona.
I’ve been thinking recently what the next story to share with you to be about – one that comes from the heart and inspire you to live a better life. And the ideas came in a surprising way. One evening after work I was doing some gardening and enjoying this activity, which many people consider a kind of meditation. While my full attention was engaged with the process, my mind was drifting freely and all of a sudden I focused on a stem of a rose bush. It didn’t have flowers but oh, it sting! It was located between the fence and the concrete, and just couldn’t grow and blossom there. I thought to myself: under other circumstances, it would be great to have a rose bush in the garden – but not here and not now.
Hello ladies, this article is for all of you – for all the girls who are starting to acknowledge and develop their femininity, for the young female professionals who work hard to prove themselves and make a living, for all the mums who have taken the busy job of being full time mommies or juggling between work and kids, and to all the wonderful ladies who have retired and enjoy the calm and well deserved relaxing years of their lives. Despite our differences, we actually go through similar struggles and problems, and look for ways to improve our lives and feel good about who we are – as people and women.
When I was in my teenage years, the whole concept of romantic relationships was quite distant and unfamiliar to me. As a sensitive child, I used to overthink and withdraw into my safe haven of books and visions of the perfect romantic story. One day my elder sister, who first showed interest in the self-development area and opened the gates to this new world to me, brought home a book called
“Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want” by Thomas W. McKnight and Robert H. Phillips.
A few weeks back I attended a 2-day Coaching Training in Oxford. I was keeping an eye on the dates for months and finally decided to go to London so I could attend as I knew it would be of a great value for me. All of a sudden a date for Oxford came up and I put it in my diary.
My idea for going there was to get a better understanding of what coaching really was and to obtain some basic coaching knowledge and skills, which I could develop and use in my personal development and career.
Little did I know what struck me the most was the enormous motivational energy of a group of like-minded people.
How do you start a love letter? “Dear …., I just want to let you know how much you mean to me and thank you for being part of my life.” You carefully pick nice colourful sheets of paper and a lovely envelope, seal it with a kiss, maybe spray some perfume… This is a love letter. To the most important person in my life – my Mum.
I’m sure your mother is the most beautiful, kind and understanding mother in the world for you. So, you might feel like writing a similar letter to her or maybe just calling her to tell her how much you love her.
Words can’t express how much you mean to me and how strongly connected I feel to you.
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman